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Anecdotal observations of life while in pursuit of things to accomplish before (doh!) 32.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

#25: Get Engaged (or become single)

The question I have been asking myself a lot lately is why? Get married that is. If 50% of marriages end in divorce and anyone who is married will tell you "don't", why bother with all the heartache and trouble? 

I think I have found the answer--and trust me--I have many, many (many, many, many) reasons not to believe in marriage. I feel it is the ultimate expression of love for another person. A lifelong commitment, bound through all of the good and bad that life delivers, and a love that will manifest itself in many different ways through the years you are together. 

I've had my share of relationships--elation, heartache, passion, longing, need, lust, validation, for all the wrong reasons, experimentation, plain old stupidity and finally because it was right. Two has always been better than one.

There is no defining moment of being ready or 100% certainty that you have found the "one". But one day, you look at the person across the table, lying next to you in bed, or coming up those stairs, and you know that in some way despite all the other faults, they compliment and complete you.

Someday, as an old married woman I hope to enjoy the tender loyalty that awaits the lucky on other side of passion. 

There I said it. Now don't pigeon hole me to the "mommy track". 

1 comment:

Tracey Parsons said...

Well said. I have been married for more than 13 years (+ dating for 5 before that)...And I count my marriage as my greatest achievement. I would tell anyone who thinks that they have found the person who makes them whole that they should get married. On the other hand, my best friends in the world have been "dating" for 18 years, they are a great couple and will likely never marry, they don't need it...FWIW.